The Art of Letting Go

Josephine Dumont, Mindset Coach, Leadership Coach

Whether it may be a certain person, a career, a place, or even clothing and other possessions we have held onto for years, there may almost certainly always be a time when we have to let go of it. And yes, it may feel hard, we may experience feelings of hurt, sadness, or even guilt for moving on or realizing that this energy is not serving us anymore.

Especially if we associate many good memories with someone or something, it can feel extra hard to free ourselves from it.

However, there is a reason why we are looking to let go, and that is because this person or thing is not serving us anymore.

We have outgrown what once used to be maybe even a crucial part of life, a supporter, a friend, a fun career, our favorite toy when we were younger. There are lots of memories attached, and there may be a fear of losing those too if we lose touch.

The good news is, no one can take away your memories, and it is beautiful and great to cherish and appreciate what was good whilst focusing on what is to come once we freed up space in our mind, life, and energy!

It is totally ok and normal to feel grief for the lost relationship, but it is important to know when the grief overtakes us and we attach too much of ourselves to what we are trying to let go of. First and foremost, we need to learn that we are complete as we are, relationships, careers, and possessions may be part of our life, BUT they are not part of who we are.

They don’t define us, WE define ourselves.

So the art of letting go is very tightly intertwined with who or what we place our own sense of worth on.

The more we manage to detach our worth from anything external, and instead focus on intrinsic validation, the more we set ourselves free.

Letting go is a high form of self-worth, especially if a relationship or career is rather toxic and draining. If we notice we keep on feeling down, negative, judged, or belittled, these are signs that we may be stuck in a toxic cycle. If transparency or open conversations don’t help this feeling, you owe it to yourself and your own well-being, to gracefully step away.

You don’t have to deal with everything or allow everything to be in your life.

Imagine you have a wasp in your house, would you keep it in there even though it keeps on stinging you?

Do both of you the favour and set it free, so the wasp can go on and elsewhere and you can finally rest and heal and focus on other things.

What do you think? Do you agree? How do you let goof what doesn’t serve you anymore?

Comment below or reach out to start a conversation.

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Josi Dumont

Leadership & Mindset Coach, Author, Podcast Host

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